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Kate's avatar

Really excellent piece, & something that can't be said too often. I'd add that looking at the women around me, mid 40s are when 'sandwich caring' kicks in for many, generally alongside full time work (because children are older). Dealing with the assorted problems of teenagers & logistical as well as emotional & physical needs of elderly relatives is enough to wear down anyone. (Soooo many hospital appointments to drive to, interpret from doctor mumble to hearing aid user, wait for meds, then catch up on missed work hours.)

Cynically I don't see men as a great control group here, because they generally don't pick up as much of this stuff (maybe US men are different?)

Anecdote only, but I'm certainly not the only woman I know whose 'menopause related' sleep problems dramatically improved after the death of an elderly & sick parent, much as we may miss them.

Also cynically, I do sometimes wonder if hormones are the new valium - 'mother's little helper' to get middle aged women through the day.

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Leslie R. Schover's avatar

I appreciate your consistently data-based approach. It is so badly needed to counter the misinformation presented so confidently by what I have come to regard as the menopause media industry. And when they earned so much money from women in menopause they broadened their marketing to a new tranche of women, initiating the perimenopause mafia.

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