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Oh boy. OK, Dr Jen, I love you, you are often a voice of sanity in the wilderness but this is a top to bottom 'no' from me, and I'm feeling sick as I write it because I hate contradicting even people I hate but when it's someone I like...ouch. I am so so sorry but this is all coming from a place of antifat, thin, white, rich privilege and nowhere is that acknowledged, and I know that is so, so triggering for people because it is so horrible to think we might be insufficiently kind or compassionate, especially when we are 'just' looking out for people's health, but this is not kind, not at all. Talking about 'doing the things that worked' is so horrible for people for whom it does NOT work, and talking approvingly about tracking calories and exercise is beyond triggering for people with all sorts of eating disorders and it is particularly problematic when you are talking from a position of authority as a medical professional. You may talk about how it's not about losing weight but the first metric you cite in all these instances is the amount of weight gained or lost. I confront this constantly with people who profess to love me and then talk about my imminent death because I am not trying hard enough to do the things 'that work'. And I'm actually really healthy! How the hell must it feel for people who aren't doing the exercise, aren't eating 'correctly' and are consequently the authors of their own downfalls? And the thing is, you could take the weight conversation out and still have a really valuable post - for people who can do it, exercise can be incredibly valuable and helpful in changing the metrics NOT to do with weight. Eating protein and fibre can be very helpful, without reference to restriction. I know you will not agree with me and feel fully justified in placing this piece here unquestioned, and I'll probably get a ton of pushback on this but this really needs to be called out wherever it appears, even if it is on the publication of a tremendously helpful, kind, empathetic practitioner. Perhaps especially then. And again, I know you might feel comfortable in stating these positions because you operate in an evidence-based paradigm and the 'science' is 'on your side' (sorry, I'm not setting up strawmen here, this is the response I get whenever I try to challenge my friends on these positions). I've gone on way too long so I won't get into it too much here but I'm afraid the science is way more fraught than is generally assumed, and I'm particularly alarmed by the 'a waist circumference of 35 inches or more for women is associated with an increased risk of cardiovascular disease and is also one of the five criteria for metabolic syndrome, and having three or more is associated with an increased risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and stroke', where the word 'associated' is doing a HELL of a lot of work. I'm not a medical professional myself and you could probably destroy me in debate but the work of people like Regan Chastain, Sonya Renee Taylor, Jessican Wilson, Asher Larmie, Lucy Aphramor, Aubrey Gordon, and and and... demonstrates that this kind of presentation of health as equated with thinness (and I'm sorry, also whiteness and wealth - we'll just sail past the bit about having a trainer, an option obviously available to everyone, everywhere, at no cost. Sorry, that was really snide but it's a little grating) is really unhelpful and actively dangerous to fat bodies. I don't expect to change any minds here but it's important to call this stuff out when you encounter it. Diet and exercise are not the universal panaceas they are so uncritically presented as, and 'fat people are worthy of respect, safety, and dignity' (https://pipewrenchmag.com/dismantling-medical-fatphobia). This piece perpetuates antifat harm, however kindly, however well-meaning. Ohhh, it hurts to write this, I feel sick.

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I appreciated your recognition that “weight loss isn’t the real goal here, it’s my health.” As someone with a history of disordered eating and exercise, who has worked very hard to place my emphasis on health and not weight loss (and certainly not using the flawed indicator of BMI), I’d value more content that takes into account those of us in perimenopause and menopause with these histories. For many of us, daily tracking is contraindicated and a sure fire way to trigger unhealthy behaviors.

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